Our true self is who we really are when we let go of all of the stories, labels, judgments and most importantly the comparisons that we have placed upon ourselves. It is who we naturally are without the masks and pretentiousness that leads us to our destination or purpose for which we were created. Your authentic self is the real you that is beyond all of those conditioned beliefs and thinking patterns that you have accumulated throughout your life.
“I’ve heard the statement “just be yourself” and don’t compare yourself to others. It sounds like an amazing thing to do, and I have wished many times that I could just do that. What I’ve wondered, though, is what in the world does that mean?” a friend made this statement on Thursday. I feel that most people have the same thoughts that’s why we shall learn about being yourself today. I know we have been talking about self-discovery and by now you already know who you are and what your purpose is in life (if you still don’t know, it is okay Contact me for help if you need it). Today we are talking about being you and stop comparing yourself to others. Running the race to your destiny. Comparing yourself to others will only make you unhappy and unfulfilled. Your life will only be about chasing what others have or being better than others, and not be being satisfied with what you have. You will never be contented with yourself
While growing up, I had this urge in me to be better than my cousins and I made sure that I am better than them at everything but one day, my cousin got better marks in school than me. The moment I saw his report card I was filled with rage mixed with failure. I ran into the house got into my room locked myself up and cried bitterly. How could he win me? I am better than him? I have been better than everyone here? How could I let this happen? I kept wondering and crying loudly until I could cry no more. I was feeling so inferior to never before. I didn’t come out of my room until in the morning.
At night as I was sleeping, I asked myself why I keep compare myself to everyone else. Why is it that I have to be better than others? It hit me so bad and I thought about “…er than” syndrome. All I tried to do was to be healthier than the rest, be smarter, be cooler, and be ….er. Why was I competing with others to be better? Why not the best? And in the wee hour of the night I decided that “…er syndrome” will never rule me, I am now changing to “..est syndrome”. I decided that I would be the best version of myself, not competing with anyone but be the best I can. This has driven me up to where I am today.
There is a reason as to why you were created the way you are. Run your race and stop comparing yourself to others. There is only the one you, you were created for a purpose only you can fulfil and no one will do it for you but you. When you compare yourself, you will either feel inferior or superior which either way is not a good for your growth as an individual who needs to reach their destination.
Here are some steps that have helped me in uncovering my real nature, which is that being outside of the accumulated thoughts and beliefs that I have collected over a lifetime.
Get in touch with your inner child.
If you ever watch small children, you will notice just how free they are and how little they care about what other people think of them. They are happy and in the moment.
They are their true natures. They have not yet been socialized to “fit in” to a society that squashes that. They don’t care if people think that they are silly while they dance in the front yard for all of the neighbors to see.
Children are just pure love and light. If you really want to get in touch with your inner child, become freer. Play, have fun, enjoy the moment, do cartwheels in the front yard.
We play roles to fit into society and we suppress our true nature out of fear of what others think and end up trying to be like others or being better than them instead to striving to be the best version of ourselves. If you find yourself worrying about being judged, remember that is merely just the socialized you, not the real you.
Become more aware of your thoughts.
You may be shocked by the number of negative thoughts that run through your mind on any given day. After so long, our reality begins to take shape based on all of these conditioned thinking patterns. Become more aware of the quality of your thinking, letting go of the old beliefs, and becoming more present can help in revealing your true nature
Yes, thoughts will come and go, but just allow them to do that without getting attached to them. Just observe them. When you are finished, continue observing the mind throughout your day. We are all so much more than those old negative thinking patterns would ever allow us to believe.
Follow your intuition.
This is probably one of the most important factors in being yourself. I ignored my intuition for the longest time because I felt so obligated to others. Their happiness was more important than my own. When I followed it my life could never be happier because the happiness of others makes me happy more. I will tell you this, from my own personal experience: When you start following the little nudges and urges that you get, you will have hopped onto the magic carpet ride of awesomeness.
It doesn’t mean that you will never have bumps in the road again, but when you are in alignment with your soul, you will always be steered in the best possible direction. Change your slogan to best self and not better than others
Try to be the best version of you and not like anyone else becase we all have our ouwn race to run.
